Patience
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This teaching explores the profound Buddhist virtue of khanti (patient endurance), which the Buddha called the greatest of all ascetic virtues. Bhante Bodhidhamma examines how patience encompasses forbearance, tolerance, restraint, and endurance in facing everything from minor irritations to severe physical and psychological suffering. The essay draws particularly on the Kakacūpama Sutta (MN 21), where the Buddha gives the striking instruction that even if bandits were severing one's limbs with a saw, the practitioner should maintain compassionate loving-kindness without inner hatred. The teaching offers practical guidance for developing patience through Right Awareness of arising irritation, cultivating goodwill when acknowledgment alone isn't sufficient, and practicing 'affectionate awareness' in unavoidable difficult situations. Bhante emphasizes that accepting circumstances doesn't mean resignation but rather continuing to seek solutions while learning to live skillfully with what cannot be changed. The essay concludes with the reminder to recognize the Buddha nature in others and understand that all beings, however deluded their methods, are fundamentally seeking happiness.
The word comes from the Latin, pati – to suffer. We derive other words from this root – patience, a patient, passion. But the virtue of patience takes on the meaning of bearing with the unpleasant, the unpleasing, with suffering.It harbours a lot of qualities the Buddha would have also included:forbearance, tolerance, restraint, self-restraint, resignation, stoicism, fortitude, sufferance, endurance.The Pali word – khanti is probably best translated as patient endurance, but like all virtues has a wide coverage - everything from minor irritants to major physical pain and psychological torment.What attitudes might foster patience which the Buddha calls the greatest of all ascetic virtues.When it comes to momentary situations, to have that awareness to see our irritation arising, allows us to resist indulging it. Sometimes we have to overlay it with good will for it does not pass on the acknowledging of it. If we find ourselves in conversation with someone whose views are contrary to our own, as we feel the anger arising in us, we are aware of it and positively put our attention towards the attitude of careful, respectful listening.It may be that we can do nothing about a situation and instead of getting into conflict, it would be wiser to develop patient forbearance. It may be great pain for which there is no palliative, or a neighbour with penetrating music, or a boss who bullies. Accepting a situation does not mean to be resigned to it, but to continuously seek a solution. If, however, there is no solution to be seen, then there is no option but to learn to live with it. Here is an opportunity to practice affectionate awareness. Difficult as it may be, it is an awareness that also engages the heart into some form of kindliness or caring.The Buddha offers this instruction in the Discourse of the Simile of the Saw MN21Bhikkhus, even if bandits were to sever you savagely, limb by limb, with a two-handled saw, he who gave rise to a mind of hate towards them would not be carrying out my teaching.’ Instead you should ‘abide compassionate for their welfare, with a mind of loving-kindness, without inner hate.’Majjhima Nikāya 21.21Bhikkhu Bodhi The Middle Length Sayings o the BuddhaIn order to do this, it would help to recognise in the other their Buddha nature and that they like us are also seeking happiness, no matter how deluded it may be.